During the holiday season, tensions can be especially high–whether engaging in conversations with friends and/or family who hold opposing political views or viewing post-election news and analysis on television. During any election season, polarization becomes increasingly heightened. Personally, while many of my family members were on different sides of the country for Thanksgiving Day, I engaged in several politically charged conversations over family group chats–only pausing the rapid flurry of texts when someone else interjected with a meme. Perhaps this election season has been especially divided; a Washington Post contributor Shadi Hamid recently opined: “Our deepest divides are real and legitimate, and they’re not going anywhere. Yes, a lot is at stake. But not everything is at stake. In a democracy, however flawed, no defeat is permanent and no victory is final. Even if this is the most important election, it will
not be the last.”
In the wake of the recent election, it is important for one to build a toolbox of important strategies for engaging in civil discourse. As we continue to navigate a nation in the midst of unusual polarization, one can take certain measures to reduce political tension on a more personal level. Furthermore, as one applies these techniques to conversations, such efforts can nurture less polarized communities and, most importantly, a stronger and healthier democracy.
- Recognize Biases: Before approaching a conversation with someone who may have a different political perspective than you, acknowledge your own biases. Furthermore, by delving deeper into your own beliefs, you will be able to reflect on the humanity that is inherent in emotional reactions. This practice will allow you to be grounded in your conversation, and approach the other person with humility.
- Active Listening: During a tense conversation, it is important to leave the spotlight and let it shine on the other person for a while. This way, you can focus on the other person’s perspective and showcase that you genuinely want to understand them, even if you may not agree. Effort goes a long way in building mutual respect!
- Seek Out Other Perspectives: Despite the prevalence of echo chambers, it is important to seek out diverse resources and viewpoints. If you cannot critically engage with other perspectives on your own, you will not be able to do so in person! One can accomplish this through varying the method in which one consumes their news intake, such as podcasts, books, news articles, etc. Additionally, this will expose you to opposing viewpoints, enabling you to counter your biases and engage more constructively in conversations with others.
- Learn When to Walk Away: At the end of the day, it is also necessary to realize when the discussion is not a productive one. In these instances, walking away does not mean conceding or giving up on your beliefs. Sometimes, it is better to acknowledge you are not willing to play a role in a larger spectacle which will waste time without leading to a meaningful outcome. By saying: “Although we will not agree, I appreciate this conversation,” you can gracefully walk away yet keep the door open for meaningful dialogues ahead!
Ultimately, civil discourse is essential in reducing the polarization that currently plagues the nation following the presidential election. During the winter season, when family and friends gather around dinner tables and couches, it is imperative to have spirited debates without disrupting the holiday spirit. After all, passionate and lively conversations help steer our democracy in the right direction, even if only by a small margin. In the end, the ultimate victory is not unity–it's understanding.
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